Recently, Coffee was on some turnout time in the arena. My mother went to bring him in, and he was watching calmly from the corner; but, when she neared the gate, he galloped a small circle, threw in a buck, and stood looking at her expectantly. He was clearly asking, “Come play with me?” So, she ducked under the fence, and off Coffee sped! At last – a playmate had arrived!
I have heard from horsemen of all stripes that you should never play with your horse. For the “Natural Horsemanship” set, it is tantamount to suicide – your horse will “kill you” if you don’t control the situation! Of course, some have also dubbed their “exercises” as “games” so the human think it is fun – but it is not necessarily fun for the horse. How much fun does “run around in a circle until I tell you to stop” sound to you? Still, it is quite possible to play safely with your horse, without alarming them (another concern I hear often) – and decades of invitations from my horses to play with them have proven to me that they enjoy it!
Horses are playful creatures. Like people or dogs, some retain their youthful playfulness into adulthood; others, less so. Not all horses play the same, and watching their personal styles can be amusing. Java, Noble, and Ricky all enjoyed the faux stallion fight style. Coffee is that rotten kid on the playground who comes up and punches you in the arm just so you’ll chase him. For the most part, the mares have preferred running, with Roxie having a particular interest in throwing in some acrobatic bucking. Dani, as a yearling, so annoyed her pasture mates (she would actually stand on them when they laid down to nap) that the two fillies she lived with would take shifts in chasing her around!
Whenever possible, we’ve given our horses the opportunity to play with others. However, circumstances – hind shoes, lack of proper facilities, or incompatibility between horses – often have prevented that. So, I became a substitute playmate. All of our horses have enjoyed playtime with us, and I believe it has added to our bonding. However, safety for all participants is a concern, so there are few rules:
- Keep your distance please! When Roxie first came, she liked to do “drive-by” kicks in my direction. I have no problem with this, as long as the distance it appropriate. So, until we have all of the rules straight with each horse, we carry a lunge whip. A couple of swings when she came too close soon taught Roxie to keep a respectful distance.
The horse is in control. Contrary to many views of horse training, I give horses control of the situation whenever possible. Nowhere is this more important that when playing – after all, how much fun is it if you are made to do it?! So, we make the offer to play; if not accepted, that ends that. Once it is accepted, the horse is in complete control of when the session is over – and our horses make that perfectly clear by walking calmly up to us.
- Any approach must be at walk. Coffee and Nash, in particular, like to prance up, necks arched. This is usually an indication that they aren’t actually finished playing – but, in Roxie’s case, was also a prelude for one of those “drive-by” passes. So, any approach that is not a flat-footed walk is redirected before it can get close enough to be dangerous. Once they learn this, it becomes their very clear signal they are done – and no amount of whip snapping or arm flapping will get a reaction.
- No playing under saddle! With the two exceptions of Ben and Coffee, any play time is done without a saddle. Even with those two boys, the right to bust loose with a saddle on (done on days when I get to the arena before realizing they’re feeling silly) was earned over time. I don’t like there to be any association that bucking with a saddle is acceptable, so until I am clear that they behave safely while ridden, the saddle comes off before the fun begins.
What games do we play? Well, there is “dodge ’em” – one of Ben’s favorite games, but not one I’d engage in with most horses. It amounts a game of chicken, where one of us ran at the other, until that player would dodge away at the last minute. We took turns in the roles, we had complete trust in each other, and I was much more nimble then. Those games are cherished memories, but not something I’m likely to ever repeat.
In a similar vein, but safer, is “Boo!” This is one of Coffee’s favorite games, but also one Nash learned to enjoy, and Roxie is now getting into. The horse comes prancing up, sometimes sideways, and at a key moment the human says “Boo!” which inevitably results in a spin and bolting away. Coffee has a custom move that is used almost exclusively when playing “Boo!” – he does a 360 revolution in two to three buck-jumps. I just love this maneuver, but I’m usually too busy playing to catch it in video. Someday …
We’ve played “I’m gonna get you!” which bears some resemblance to playing a chasing game with a toddler. We’ve played shadow games, where I start prancing and the horse begins to prance along (at a safe distance, of course). We’ve also played “follow the leader”, which should always be a slow-speed game. I’ll never forget watching a video of a young woman playing this type of game with her horse at a run, and having so much fun until the horse kicked her in the head!
Perhaps your horse is turned out with his best buddies, and doesn’t need any play time. However, play is a key social engagement that certainly can aid bonding. It can take many forms – my mother plays games with Noble by teaching him to offer named body parts, and he invites her to play frequently. So, if you haven’t already, see if you can come up with some “horseplay” you and your equine buddy can enjoy together.
Be good to your horses … and have a little fun!
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Good ideas on the games and play sessions! Don’t know horses can be playful as dogs too!
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Thank you, Healthy Horse. Some do have to learn that it is play, if they have been trained in such a way that inhibited it … it is definitely a “feel your way” thing. But, given the chance, they are very playful!
One of my horses loves play days. He will run the arena, then come up to me with his neck arched as if to say “aren’t I pretty Mom?”
We will do a slow run side by side-at a safe distance- until he does a buck and run.
He will go to each corner of the arena a give a “stallion snort,” (he’s gelded) with his tail up over his back. It is just pure joy, and beautiful to watch.
Other days, he just chooses to be close to me.
My other boy, will just hug my side and follow me like a puppy dog on play days.
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Sounds like you have wonderful relationships with both your boys, Dawn! And isn’t it wonderful how different they can be in personality and preferences? Thank you for sharing – it starts my morning with a smile!